Friday, January 4, 2013

Sooner than you think...

We kicked off 2013 with a topic that every mom needs to be educated on...teaching your child about intimacy.  During large group time we watched Mary Flo Ridley's DVD and learned a lot about how to answer those tough questions our kids ask by simply being honest and being prepared.

The first step is to define your message.  Incorporate biology as well as your core beliefs.  An example of a message is that sex is a gift from God for marriage.  It is short and too the point.

Another thing that Mary talks about is using proper terminology for private parts rather than silly made up words.  This will be important when it comes time to explain things around puberty.  If they have heard the terminology it won't be as awkward and silly.  Practice saying those words ladies!

Explaining the story of birth can be a tricky thing.  Your 3 or 4 year old may ask questions if mommy has a baby in her belly.  Use the correct terminology with your little one, but keep it simple.  They don't need the entire story at that young of an age.  Let them guide the discussion with their questions.

Conception is another topic that may come up in the preschool years.  How did that baby get in your tummy mommy?  If you want to use part of your message you may start out with something like, "by God's design..." Keep it simple and again, let your child guide the discussion with their questions.

Just remember, everything doesn't need to be shared in one conversation.  You will be having many conversations over the years.  Practice, be prepared, and you'll do just fine!